I originally wanted to start this post off saying, Not because you have not VERBALLY communicated something with someone,means that NO ONE knows about that "thing", whatever that "thing" may be... Then I also thought of saying bashing someone for doing something that you yourself do, is called being a HYPOCRITE... Because I figured that was equally important to say.. Then I wanted to start off by saying, Things done in the dark, are still things done... Get it??.. I have a trend going here right??... But.... stay with me now... My brilliant mind also came up with, Don't ever be that person who everyone questions,where loyalty is concerned..(started my second topic and I thought of this one)... If you aren't a TEN on the One to Ten scale, it's ok, how many people are?? Physically that is... Except for my cousins, Chaunique,Cherisse and Keda.. I hate you all.. No I'm kidding, I love you guys :*.... But for regular folks.. it's okay, the problem begins when you aren't all that, and you are in denial, about it, and your "friends" encourage it to your face, and talk about it behind your back.... That aint cute!Another great idea was to start off with saying, usually ONLY a guilty party can take offense.. extension of that topic would be.. If you are immature/angry/crazy enough to throw a stat,tweet,whatever at another person, be immature enough to read and accept what they retaliate with, and don't go denying that your stat or tweet was NOT for them in the first place, quit playing, we all know the truth, OWN UP, to your immaturity(sorry I got a bit carried away with this last one)...Since they are all excellent topics, I'll speak about them all,because some of yall folks,need to hear a thing or two or three about these topics...
Here we go... :)
First thing first
Not because you have not VERBALLY communicated something with someone,means that NO ONE knows about that "thing", whatever that "thing" may be...
Let me break this down for ya. There are some people who posses COMMONSENSE, there are some who, APPLY COMMONSENSE,there are others who are very good, excellent maybe, at reading body language or things unspoken, there are others who are really good at putting 1+1 together, and there are people who posses two or more of these wonderful traits.
Now.... In my observation, I have noticed that persons somehow, are under the impression that because they did not communicate something with someone, for reasons probably being, shame or not wanting to be viewed a particular way, that no one actually knows what is or what has taken place... Like where did we get that thought pattern from? And what is actually worst, is that we somehow manage to get angry,aggravated,irritated and upset that someone can even suggest that we are doing or did do something like "that" at any time in our lives!! We usually end up using words like "alleged" in a real sarcastic tone, or usually end up spilling some info about the person that may have observed you, and let the cat out of the bag.. Let me tell YOU! NOT BECAUSE IT WAS DONE IN THE DARK, MEANS THAT IT WASN'T DONE... Sweetie be real with yourself, it was ok... I never said claim it, if it's really bad and you're really ashamed, But please don't go ACTING like that shit ain't true... DON'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT!! Quit it, Own it, Grow Up!!
That brings us to..
Bashing someone for doing something that you yourself do, is called being a HYPOCRITE..
This is self explanatory.. But let me just say this.. It's ok not to like everyone, or some people... The Christian way, or any religious way would encourage loving your fellow human.. But the reality is, we don't always adhere to that.. And although our goal may be to be there at some point in our life, at this point, you're probably really far from it. So with that being said, if you gossip, which if not all of us, most of us are guilty of doing, you can't bash someone for gossiping. That's crazy, that is like, being an alcoholic and bashing other alcoholics or bashing people who have an occasional drink, anyway you get my drift. It's called being a hypocrite!! It's ok to TELL the person(If you actually know them personally) that hey, maybe we should stop being like this, or whatever, but don't go bashing them for committing the SAME sin as you. Not because you woke up in a bad mood, or you thought you might try changing your life, does not entitle you to be a hypocrite!!
On To The Next...
Things done in the dark, are still things done... It hasn't "not happened" because you hid to do it.. It happened, your just hid to do it out of shame of what other folks would do. Claim It, Own It,Grow Up!!
Moving On Now
Don't ever be that person who everyone questions,where loyalty is concerned..
To say you are loyal to your family alone, is to say I AM STUPID... The only way that works is if you only interact and speak to your family ALONE!! If you make friends, you NEED to be loyal to them, otherwise tell them from the very start of your conversation.... I WILL TURN MY BACK ON YOU, I WILL STAB YOU IN YOUR BACK, I WILL NOT DEFEND YOU IF YOU ARE NOT AROUND, I WILL NOT TELL YOU MY ISSUES WITH YOU,I WILL HOWEVER TELL EVERYONE ELSE. People like you, need to keep to your damn self, ease us all up!! I'm begging.
If you aren't a TEN on the One to Ten scale, it's ok, how many people are?? Physically that is... Except for my cousins, Chaunique and Cherisse .. I hate you all.. No I'm kidding, I love you guys :*.... But for regular folks.. it's okay, the problem begins when you aren't all that, and you are in denial, about it, and your "friends" encourage it to your face, and talk about it behind your back....
Self explanatory.. This "Friend" is also a hypocrite.... Embrace YOU.. love you... But don't be in denial about certain things, because being in denial, usually means you criticize others who aren't all that either, or maybe they actually look better than you, anyway, your "Friends" usually agree or whatever with you, or maybe they disagree, but as you turn, they criticize you... Get Real and be honest,get new friends too ....
Usually ONLY a guilty party can take offense.. extension of that topic would be.. If you are immature/angry/crazy enough to throw a stat,tweet,whatever at another person, be immature enough to read and accept what they retaliate with, and don't go denying that your stat or tweet was NOT for them in the first place, quit playing, we all know the truth, OWN UP, to your immaturity... Ok so I clearly got a bit carried away.
If someone's stat has offended you,this is simply because it was clearly the truth! And you need to simply relax and deal with yourself, look within you and get to the bottom of WHY THE HELL DID THIS AFFECT ME THIS WAY. Don't shoot the messenger.. Offense to someone's stat or tweet is simply a reflection of how you are or the way you think, if it bothers you, and you refuse to get into that whole look at myself thing, and you do retaliate with another stat or tweet(this is if you started it) then when the shit hits the fan, because it will, do not go around telling others that the other person is immature because he/she throws stats for you,because you are doing the same damn thing!!! Do not suddenly get maturity and class when you know your come backs aren't as witty, or your guilty a** decides to shut up. Don't act like your messed up mind and lifestyle didn't lead you to believe that a simple status was intended for you and you acted out like the ghetto you are... Don't be a hypocrite, that aint cute either!! Girl have several seats!!
That's about it.. In a nutshell, Don't be rowing the damn boat, and talking about others sitting it!! You better get your life!!
Later guys :* Until next timeeee....
Love Gabby
