To My Danny with Love..

Hi Danny, how are you?.. I know we haven't been as close as we should be, because I'm really not that much older than you.. I guess it's my fault, because I've never really reached out.. But that's gonna stop from today. I'm here to talk to you, wanted it to be open and honest, and for the World to see that you're loved..

Let me say that you're beautiful, inside and out, always have and always will be, regardless of what anyone may say, and frankly it doesn't really matter what anyone says, because everyone has their faults, so let me say that if someone picks at your flaws, it's only because they're in denial about themselves. But that doesn't mean that you live up to their negative assumptions, live above it, take each negative word that they throw your way, and build yourself higher, at first you may cry about it, be mad about it, but don't ever live up to it, don't stay down, because you were destined for greatness. 

Remember to always keep a good head on your shoulders, yes you're at an age where boys are the best thing out there, but really they aren't. You are priceless, act like it, because you know what? These same guys you meet now, who may want you to go through hell and back to prove to them you care, they're gonna be the same ones you see in the street years from now, doing the same thing they're doing now.. Nothing.. It's happened, to many women before you. You'll grow to realize that the sweet words they say, mean nothing, it's simply a way to get sex, yes you'll have feelings, even fall in love, but keep in mind that it probably won't lasts like you pictured it in your head. Take pride in yourself, know that you're worth something, you're not cheap, don't make yourself affordable to someone who can only buy KFC and give you children. 

Be smart and know that you don't want or need drama in your life, walk away from it, and any guy who brings it to you, doesn't care, don't make excuses, any friend who brings it into your life, leave them behind, they were not a friend to begin with. Any family member who speaks it into your life, rebuke it. You are not negativity... 

Yes you will fall short, but you won't remain there, yes you will want love, and when God is ready he'll send it. And he'll send something that never in a million you thought you would experience. Things may not always go the way you want it too, but it will always go the way it should have. 

Remember you're a child of God, have respect, ask for forgiveness for the wrong you've done, accept your faults, try to improve them, learn to forgive and move on. Everything will fall into place. Just believe it will.. Do positive thing, and positive things will follow, be honest, and if you think that you can't be honest about certain things, then you shouldn't be doing it, lol I've learnt this and so I'm sharing it with you... Let as the months go by, you're the person you really want to be. Not the person you think your friends will like, but the person you're proud to be! 

If ever you feel like you have to choose between actions that your friends will like and actions your family will approve of, choose the latter, it will pay off, you don't have to be lame, but remember that there is a life after school, you will meet people after, you will fall in love, you will go to University and be thrown into a whole different world, and you don't want negative things you did in the past, to follow  you, because they don't stay behind..

So with this being said, I love you, I hoped I touched something in your heart and Remember that I'm always here... Without judgement. 

Not all men are dogs.....

So a lot of females tend to say that all men are dogs, but maybe it's just the guys you go after, and maybe they aren't dogs, maybe they just werent the guys for you, yall were not compatible. Things happen, but remember that you aren't perfect, you have flaws, you fall short, he probably expected certain things from you that you couldn't or didn't give to him, things that he expects or expected his future wif to do, you may be wifey material for some, not everyone! The same goes for a man. He may not be your Prince, but he might be someone else's. 

You aren't the best woman there is,be honest with yourself.

You're black! Accept it

I'm not sure if I ever spoken about this here, but I know that I'm tired of saying it. I'm not sure about countries and cultures, but in my country (Trinidad and Tobago), persons have a way of breaking down everything they're family is mixed with and then claiming that they're mixed.

LISTEN!!!!! Not because your father's father's great grandmother's sister's niece who married Uncle Benny's cousin was french, means that you're mixed with French!!! Get a grip!! If ninety five percent of you is black, then you're black!!!! Embrace it! It;s unique, uplift it, don't fight it!! Damn!!

Learning when to forgive

Sometimes we want to keep someone in our lives so bad, that we  overlook every fault they possess. And some even say 'I don't live in the past" in order to justify why they tolerate and "forget" the wrong done to them. Some may disagree, and some may agree, I get forgiving your partner, because we are humans, and we do make mistakes, but forgiveness and forgetfulness should be given and done when you see promise in your partner, when you see them making an effort to correct their mistake, when they take ownership of the wrong they've done. If you continuously and conveniently forgive and forget because  you want to keep him/her, you're selling yourself short every time. If after so many times of me doing something wrong, and you forgive every time without me even having to say sorry, or maybe you give me the option of saying sorry when I feel like it,while you still stick with me, I'll tell myself you don't think very much of yourself and you need me,that's why you let me do whatever I want.... And you know what? I'll do just that, every time. 

Yes you've put time in,but think of how much time you're going to waste if you don't address and fix your issues. Work on them together, listen, explain and be honest, say when something affects you, but don't say it in a way where you come off as you do everything perfectly, because the truth is we view ourselves differently from what people actually see. Give it a try today :)

Dee Dee - Stuck on you

If you always look for the negative. You will always find it.....

Sometimes, because we've had negative experiences, we tend to look at things negatively. For example, you're used to persons being deceitful or unwilling to help you. A situation arrives where someone may not have gotten around to helping out, and the first thing you tell yourself is that they aren't a true friend or your mind comes up with 100 different often incorrect reasons as to why someone didn't give you their hundred percent, or undivided attention. 

And as I said that, no one is entitled to give your their full, undivided attention. And not everything that everyone says, should fall in your garden, or is meant for you to take to heart. You are not the center of everyone's universe.