I'm no genius but i'm no ones dumbass

Please let's get this straight. Disrespect isn't only found in words,it's also found in actions. 
If a man or woman constantly undermines your efforts in a relationship, doesn't take your feelings into consideration, blatantly shows you that he doesn't care(except for when it comes close to him not being able to have sex with you anymore), then he/she is disrespecting you, you're just sex to the person. Any person who truly loves you and is mature enough to be in a relationship won't do you like that constantly. 

So please don't wait till i becomes verbal disrespect to say "I'm not taking any disrespect  . Because you've been taking it, why do you think he/she is verbally disrespecting you now???.......(Giving you a moment to process).... good

So when your partner disrespects you with their actions, let them know that you won't stand for it, don't just let it slide, and expect that he/she won't do it again!!! How dumb is that??? You sit and show him/her, that you don't value yourself, yet you want them to value you???.....ummmmm.... 

Please leave me out!

Ok, so I've finally been here, more than enough times, and I think it's about time that I say something. Please leave me out of your relationship drama. I do not want to be apart of your falling out/fight/argument or whatever may happen. It puts your friends and family in an awkward position when you get them involved in your relationships dynamics!. It's a place where no outsider should go. Example

Jack and Jill had an argument, Jill then tells her friends and family about the fight, of course Jill exaggerates, and makes Jack look like he's just an asshole, and she did nothing wrong, or maybe she did something really small which of course she just through in to make her story believable. So now friends and family hearing this, after maybe a lot of fights, come to the conclusion that she should leave Jack alone because he is of no good they advise her on what they think is best(given the information they have received). Jack then tries to clear his name with the said friends and family, and in doing so, has shared information that wasn't heard before. Now they(friends and family) are placed in an awkward position. Should I tell Jill i know this new information?Or should I keep quiet because I don't want to make it worst. Lets look at scenario number one. 
So they inform Jill that Jack has given them the true details of what happened, Jill gets angry at Jack, Jack then gets angry at friends and family for saying anything. That relationship between Jack and family may now be destroyed, because he feels as though he can no longer trust them.(WHEN IN REALITY HE SHOULDN'T HAVE CALLED) Jack apologizes to Jill, they make up. Friends and family are no estranged to the couple, because of what was said. 

Scenario number two: Family and friends withhold the information for fear of making things worst between the couple. Jack and Jill make up, Jack tells Jill he told friends and family certain things, and then Jill becomes enraged that friends and family spoke to Jack and didn't tell her... (NOT FOR ACTUALLY LYING TO THEM)

See? either way it doesn't go well. So before you act like ten year olds, and share your relationship problems with everyone, just to be backed up. Take the time, talk it out, make love and move on. 

If it offends, ask yourself why

Damn I can't stress enough how irritated I get when a female tolerates mess from a guy, doesn't say anything, and then expects something to change. And worst yet, if they involve me in the drama, or tell me of the bs they've experienced, and then, me being who I am, try to help. Only to be ignored. 

I'm not saying start a fight every time, and i'm not saying to leave the one you're with, but when you're unhappy in your relationship, it's always best to speak to your partner about it, rather than a friend. You see, although they may care, and although you need someone to speak too, you become a burden eventually, especially if you do nothing about the situation except complain about the guy. Sometimes guys aren't aware of what they do to offend or hurt you, and other times, they are, but they just don't give an ass. If you know that the guy you've been with has constantly disrespected(doesn't only mean hit/curse),if he's unappreciative, selfish, self absorbed,uncaring, and everything else,chances are he just doesn't give an ass about you, because let's be real here, once or twice is a mistake, three four an five times?? ..... Well I'll let you figure that out. 

I've also come to realize that females tend to forgive a guy who shows you nine out of ten times that he doesn't care, faster than someone else who has done something really insignificant... why though?? Is it the sex?? That shit must be really good... Funny thing is,the people in this type of relationship, don't even realize that they're going nowhere really fast. And are always quick to get defensive when you point out reality to them. I always say, if something I may have said, offends you, ask yourself why, instead of getting angry at me.... 

Ways to make things better

Fighting in a relationship can be extremely draining. Any amount of tension seems to be felt ten times as much as it is with a friend or family member. That could be because sex is involved…Either way, you don’t want to make that feeling even worse, and you don’t want to prolong it.

So here are some tips to avoid this…

Joke about it

Once a fight is over, it's over. Don’t make passive aggressive comments about something your guy/girl did wrong after you’ve made up. Don’t bring up the thing he did to piss you off as a story to entertain your friends or family. You may not be meaning to actually fight about it again, but pretty much any manner in which you bring it up will stir up tension again.

Stacking things up

Don’t wait until your guy/girl has done something wrong a number of times before yelling “you always do this!” He didn’t realize he always did this! He didn’t realize that this was a problem at all. But if you let him do it multiple times before you bring it up, he has to deal with multiple times the wrath. The first time he does it, say something. Don't be so afraid to lose a guy that you tolerate and tolerate until you blow up, because by then it will be too late to fix anything and your worst nightmare will become a reality.

Confronting at the wrong time

Don’t be that couple who makes others uncomfortable by arguing in public. On a double date with your best friends, or at dinner with your parents, or even just standing in line at the grocery store is not the best place to bring an issue up for the first time. Then, your man has to deal with the added stress of being watched while he tries to dig himself out of a hole.

Holding it in

It’s healthier to expose how something makes you feel—even if that means using some harsh words—than to cover it up. And, come on, he’s a man. He will appreciate that straight-forwardness because in general, that is how men talk with their friends. 

Turning it outward

He doesn’t need to know that whatever it is he did made him look like an idiot, or proved that he is a complete a**hole. All he needs to know is how it made you feel. The fight shouldn’t be about making him feel bad, it should be about making you feel better.

Bringing someone else into it

Do not tell him that your mom, your brother, his'your best friend and all of your friends “totally agree with me on this.” And that they all think he is selfish, ignorant, insensitive or x, y, z just like you do. You don’t need their opinion to back you up. It will just annoy the hell out of your guy that you’ve been talking about him behind his back, and if he cares enough about you, all he needs to know is what you think of him. Not what the town thinks

Talking down to him

Don’t use a sarcastic tone. Don’t sit him down, hold his hand and talk slowly as if you’re instructing a kindergartener. Being put in that sort of position really aggravates a man. Say what you have to say matter of factly. Look him square in the eye. Don’t beat around the bush or use metaphors.

It's so much better to work on a problem as it arises. Don't put it off or run away from it. That only makes matters worst