Are you DYSFUNCTIONAL
Ladies... ladies ladies ladies ladies... sighhh.. ladies ladies ladies...
I just want to say this, I am starting to believe that there is some gooooood stuff going around and most of the females I know, are getting some of it! Now I say this because I can't see any other reason to stay in some of the relationships yall are in!! Gad damn!! I'm not in it and I feel drained and upset!!
I really am saying this out of love and maybe fricken frustration!!
Here goes! Enjoy and feel free to share to any sista who falls in one or more of these categories..
Let me deal with my females who don't even have a man but has enough stress and problems for all of their friends! Ladies .. IF A MAN WANTS YOU, IF A MAN WANTS TO BE WITH YOU, HE WILL!! If he is serious about you, he will be committed to you!! Unless you're dealing with forbidden love or mess like he's married or something, do not be the girl/woman he strings along!! And don't be the string along, and knowing this, get all angry when he treats you as such, or you aren't getting the commitment you want from him!! If that is the role you decided to play, then play it and be quiet!! Lemme tell you, you cannot decide that you are ok with being a string along for now, but later want a certain level of commitment. He already dubbed you as that. Chances are, not much is going to change in his mind about you. Do not be the person he goes to when all his other options aren't there!! That shyt cray and you're gonna end up hurt and feeling like a damn ass when they do make an appearance and you're left there, bitter as hell!! Stop giving this person all this damn satisfaction of knowing he has you right where he wants you! If he is NOT your man, if yall aren't exclusive or any of that good shyt, he does NOT owe you shyt!!! He can speak to whom ever he wants, he can make time for whoever, he can flirt, sex, kiss with whoever gives him the chance!!! You have no right getting angry, because from day one you established that "side piece", "whenever nobody else is around piece" was your damn role!! And I'm sure that your friends get tired of hearing you complain about something that isn't even yours!!. Soooo if you know that you want more than that, let it be known. Do not hint, do not wait, do not deny it, let the man/boy know!!. That way nobody's time is being wasted, and no feelings are hurt. If you do get a no, you never know, that may be a blessing. Something better is out there.
For the ladies in dysfunctional relationships :)........... Shut up!!! No... Seriously STFU!! Lemme tell you, when your friends, close or just taking up space friends, hear or see you complain so much about a guy, they get tired and frustrated, and chances are if they are anything like me, they say you are dumb as hell! ok.. Yes you may be in love, I get that, but if your relationship is as poor as you make it out to be then you need to drop it or work on it, but don't sit, putting up stats complaining because NEWS FLASH... AIN'T NOBODY INTERESTED!!! Either you love the dysfunctional thing you have, you like attention, or you're plain dumb. If you like it, hush and take it, we don't want to hear. If you feel lost, frustrated or whatever, talk to the person you are with. If that doesn't help, reach to a couple friends or family PRIVATELY or leave the person on the whole. If it's the attention you like, you need to seek professional help. Nobody needs to know all the problems you have within your relationships, especially if the person you're with doesn't even know. Like putting a stat for them on fb or bbm or tweeting it, and they don't even know that's how you feel... Gosh please stop!!
If you are in a dysfunctional relationship and you don't broadcast it, good for you *pats back* . But please don't stay in it. Please fix it and seek some help. That shyt is depressing and can break and make you suicidal. Do not keep that in. Leave if you have to. Don't think of it as time invested, but think of it as how much more time you're going to waste holding on to something that isn't working or the other person doesn't want it as bad as you do. Really let go and let God... I'm sure the dxck aint' thaaaat good to make you go through the shyt that you are..
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