One For the Guys

Guys, from a female perspective, it's unattractive and such a huge turnoff to talk about things you don't have. Yes we want a guy who can dress, but to always talk about swag is one of the lamest things you can do and guarantees you won't score big with a girl, at least not a intelligent focused one. It's even worse when you don't have 'swag'. Boy who the hell are you trying to please? We know the truth, and its even worse to constantly update your status or tweet about money when you don't have. Are you a rapper? Then don't do that, we can barely stand when they get paid to sing about these things, far less when your broke ass is doing it. We don't have to know how much money you have, but when that's all you talk about, 'getting money' 99% of the time, especially if you're young and work in some dinky little place, we know you're fronting. Don't brag about sex either, or your penis, self explanatory, and don't play it down either, because you may blow your chances of getting any. A big one for us girls, that guys don't get, is not 'girls say they want a nice guy but when one comes along she ignores him'. First thing's first, there are very FEW 'nice' guys out there, so don't be trying to play like you're a nice guy and girls are crap for not wanting you when you know you dog girls out or use them. The kind of guy who fools weak minded little girls into having sex with them and then classing them as whores, please, don't front. And on a side note, girls please don't fall for these stupid guys with their stupid lines. The worst I've heard 'You're a lil girl' lol boy please! I'm not stupid. Anyway, back to the topic, for the few nice guys there are, this is for you. It's not that we females don't want a nice guy, we do, you guys just sometimes come across as too clingy, or move to fast. Show her affection, but not so much as for her to feel absolutely sick of you because you're 'too' nice. That is a turn off, especially if you're unsure as to how she feels about you. If you're not sure, show her enough affection as to know you are different, but not so much that she runs off into the arms of some 'no good'. Don't be too willing to please, especially not right away, show her that you are a man and not just some pathetic sap who can't get a girlfriend. This does not mean that you should treat her like some stupid ex did, just assert yourself, show her that you can be soft and sweet as well as stand your ground. Be versed in the things she like, but not so willing as to only do whatever she wants because you think she'll like you more if you do, show her your world as well. Don't start with babies, marriage and a life together before you even know if she likes you because that is such a turn off and will guarantee you a 'physco' in her book. Make her laugh, can't stress how important this is, a girl loves to laugh. Don't be anti conversational, it's a turn off when a female has to initiate all the conversations. Make her want you, not sexually, but intellectually. If she isn't excited, or looking forward to your next conversation or meeting, then you've done something wrong. Be an ear, but not one who just listens to her stories about her ex, especially not when you want to make her more. Most importantly, what's for you, is for you. If one fish doesn't bite, another one will. Don't be discouraged, just take it as a lesson learnt. This does not, by any means, mean turn into an asshole. God knows how many of these we already have in this world, we do not need anymore.