Enough Already

When is it enough…

Ok so I know of many women, grown women and young ladies who seem to be so engrossed in a man that they don’t realize how messed up their whole life has become because of it.  To be in denial about a dysfunctional relationship only affects you and the people who actually care. If you are in a situation where this individual is not even your man, and you're stressing like he’s your damn child, you need to move on. If someone wants you, they are going to make you a permanent fixture in their life. I cannot stand to hear my friends complain about a man, especially if he ain’t even theirs. I do understand to a point but then you act as though this man is the best thing ever, or you’ve invested so much time into your relationship or so much time into trying to get a relationship with the individual that it's worth sticking around some more. Really? I don’t feel that way, because if months or years have gone by without any real change you’re gonna be stuck with many more years or months of heartache, so pick yourself up and look at it as lesson learnt. You now know exactly what you don’t want and what you do. And while you’re there stressing about someone who does not care, that someone is out enjoying life with everyone. It’s sad to love someone and not get it in return but if its like that for you, don’t put yourself on the floor and not expect somebody to walk all over you. Focus on you and the people who do give you love and affection and please don’t take out your frustration on them, whether it be your children, close family members of friends.

So in saying that I wanna give some of the signs for when I believe that it's time to pack up and leave. 

So first of all if you are in a relationship and there isn't much growth, you need to evaluate. Especially when you've been in it for a number of years and there is no real progression. You're experiencing teenage like problems in a mature relationship. 

If your partner doesn't make you feel good about yourself or your relationship,or even being with them. Just being around them you feel drained, or just an uncomfortable feeling.

If you feel like you are staying just because you have no where else to go.

You are the only person trying in your relationship. How long are you willing to put 200 percent. 

You can no longer have civilized conversations or disagreements. 

No respect 

There is a constant need to hide things from your friends and family.