If you're like me, and you know tons of people in crazy relationships, you would often find yourself saying "Why doesn't she just leave!!??". Well I'm going to give a couple reasons for why someone in a dysfunctional relationship stays.
Once upon a time he made you feel good about yourself. Especially after a fight, and so you're left thinking "gee whiz! I'm so freaking lucky to have someone who accepts and loves me for my flaws". .........
You've invested time and don't want the hassle of finding someone new, even though there is no love,passion or excitement. And so you settle, but you don't realize that it's better to be alone than with the wrong guy.
You have no idea of how damaged your relationship actually is. This happens when you don't share much about your relationship, and this is ok for privacy reasons, but if you find yourself not sharing, because you know jaws may drop, then you really do need to check it. Let your closest friends in on some of the details in your relationship so that they could be your eyes when you're blinded by love.
You have given up on everybody and everything since you met this guy. And he became your for all end all. Maybe even neglected yourself, kids, family, friends, and your career. This surely will lead you to feel as though there is nowhere to go now. It's frightening to think about leaving the person if you have done these things, but it's going to be even scarier to wake up years down the line and see you've done all of this for the wrong guy.
You have no idea what else is out there. If you're not treated like a queen. There definitely is better.
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